Heartbeat Nurturing Therapy

Healing Our Hearts with Powerful Inner Child Therapy

Inside look at the Heartbeat Nurturing Book

Introduction

I began working with my early memories of infancy and birth
because of symptoms of physical pain that were long term and chronic,
and were seriously blocking my ability to function and enjoy life. I
learned peer counseling in my 20's and it has been a wonderful help all
my adult life. I learned to focus on the earliest memories in counseling,
to get the most effectiveness from my sessions, because those early
imprints form the root of all later issues.
I began to experience physical sensations and feelings arising
from my body during sessions, and images of my experiences of birth
and pre‐birth. Although I knew that everything we have experienced is
recorded somewhere in our brain, I thought it was not possible to
remember such early moments. But there they were, clear and strong. I
felt feelings of my heart and neck being pushed and compressed, and
feelings of the numbness and disassociation typical of anesthesia. My
body was shaking and moving of its own accord. Deep feelings of
vulnerability and fearful shock, and also abandonment came through
and released as tears and sounds.
Always after these sessions, I felt a renewed energy and
different perspective on life. When I discovered that being held and
role‐playing the early events increased the effectiveness, I used many of
my sessions doing that technique. Gradually over time, my persistent
fear of the physical world and reluctance to be embodied have been
fading and changing to joy and peace in being alive. Also my personal
intimate relationships have shifted from being full of fear, control and
attachment to much more love, freedom and personal empowerment.
Heartbeat Nurturing Therapy addresses the pain that many of
us experienced as infants in our birth process, and also the lack of skin
contact and breastfeeding from our mothers after birth. Our birth is the
primal imprint, the initiation moment on which we base our beliefs
about life. Unsatisfied needs for oral stimulation and closeness can lead
to overeating, smoking, relationship problems and other addictions
later in life.
In this form of therapy we can offer new imprints of love and
nurturance directly back to those younger parts of ourselves. This frees
us to create more mature and satisfying intimate contacts with others.
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This book outlines a simple and deeply therapeutic practice that
can be done with friends or lovers, or as a solo practice by yourself. It is
a way of loving yourself and others deeply; reaching into areas of the
most basic infantile needs and giving nurturing. Since the practice is so
simple, anyone can do it, and people can easily exchange sessions with
each other as a conscious form of nurturing and sharing.
Within a spiritual and intentional context, we act as healing
channels to help release this pain and create new healthy imprints in
the psyche. A version of inner child therapy, this process works with
accessing the infant self and memories still stored in our deep
subconscious and cellular memory. By using ritual, hypnotic induction,
massage, touch, sound and spoken words, we open a direct channel
back to that time and those experiences around birth. We seek to fill
some of the unmet needs of that time, and create new and healthier
imprints and neural pathways.
This book is intended as a basic introduction to some ideas and
practices that can be deeply satisfying and healing when trading
therapy with friends and lovers. I use the words "counselor",
"therapist" and "giver" interchangeably in this book, and these terms do
not imply any level of training.
You may have many of these skills already, and be able to skip
through a lot of the chapters. If you are completely new to any of this,
then give yourself a while to learn and practice, and don't expect to do it
perfectly at the beginning. Making mistakes is part of the learning
process. Do be aware that this is a powerful therapy technique that can
and probably will bring up deep and old issues. Get support from
experienced counselors if you run into problems.
Professionals may find this technique to be useful and integrate
it into their practice, if they are free to actually be physically close to
their clients. A person trained to give these sessions is affectionately
called a Mamadevi or Papadeva, (Sanscrit: deva means diety) and they
may offer these as part of a tantric healing ministry or as a part of being
a sexual surrogate. Often this is prohibited by law for professionals,
since they risk their clients becoming confused with transference
(attachment), or feelings of being sexually abused. This technique is
most effective and least confusing when done between people who are
trusting of each other, and not exchanging money for the service.
This is not a thorough guide to all the details of working with
the emotions that may arise while doing therapy. Each chapter could be
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expanded to its own book, since the topics are so broad. I will give you
an outline of the basic technique, and ideas for several ways to use it, as
well as the background skills needed to use the full technique.
Information has been included on many relevant topics, with
ideas about how to approach them therapeutically. We will explore the
need for healing and the negative effects of common western birth
procedures. For those who are new to therapy or counseling, the basics
of how to do emotional release work, peer counseling, inner child work
and role‐playing are explored. You’ll find an explanation of the process
of deep relaxation, hypnotic induction and regression, and spiritual
invocation.
Various practices are recommended in learning these processes,
and each one is highlighted so you can easily find them. The practices
can be done in pairs or on your own in many cases. If you are interested
in learning more about the skills involved in any of these, see the
Resources section.
This book assumes that if you are practicing giving this therapy,
you feel that you are able to hold loving space for another person to go
into and through some very strong feelings. This service can have very
lasting and profound effects on the lives of those who receive it. I hope
you practice this and teach it and share it widely, because now we need
all the love and nurturing we can create to spread out blessings through
our world.
May you know deep peace within.
Amara Wahaba Karuna

 Table of Contents


What People Say:......................................................................................... iii
Introduction.................................................................................................. ix
Chapter 1: Humans and Emotions...............................................................1
What is Peer Counseling, and Why Do It? ............................................ 3
Human Nature and Intelligence.............................................................. 3
How We Get Hurt.......................................................................................... 4
Practice: Scan Your Triggers
Practice: Scan Your Beliefs About the World
The Natural Healing Process.................................................................... 7
Blocks to the Healing Process.................................................................. 8
Chronic Isolation and Fear of Intimacy ................................................ 9
Chapter 2: How We Can Help Each Other ...............................................11
How To Begin As A Counselor................................................................11
Practice: The Counselor's Attitude
Creating Safety............................................................................................12
Practice: Listening Well
What to Do As A Counselor .....................................................................14
What Not To Do As A Counselor ............................................................15
What Not To Do As A Client.....................................................................17
Practice: Short Sessions
Rewriting the Programs ..........................................................................18
Counteraction..............................................................................................19
When Emotions Let Go .............................................................................19
Practice: Breathing
Chapter 3: Our Deepest Needs and Our Society....................................21
The Experience of Birth and Infancy...................................................21
Effects of Modern Birthing Practices...................................................23
Our Natural Needs .....................................................................................24
Old Frozen Needs VS Current Needs....................................................26
Working with Frozen Needs...................................................................28
What Parents Need....................................................................................29
Food, Love and Touch...............................................................................30
Practice: Food and Love

Practice: Breastfeeding History
Chapter 4. The Heartbeat Nurturing Process........................................33
For the Giver ............................................................................................... 33
For the Receiver......................................................................................... 34
Short & Simple Sessions .......................................................................... 35
Practice: Short Cradling Session
Giving a Full Session................................................................................. 35
Creating a Sacred Context....................................................................... 37
Aspects of Creating Sacred Space......................................................... 37
The Heartbeat Nurturing Therapy Processes.................................. 38
The Basic Process ...................................................................................... 38
Advanced Process: Suckling................................................................... 39
Finishing the session................................................................................ 39
After the session ........................................................................................ 39
Chapter 5. Inner Child Work.......................................................................41
Giving Voice to The Inner Parts ............................................................ 41
Three Selves: Adult, Child and Higher Self........................................ 42
Practice: Speak With the Inner Child
What Happens to Young People ........................................................... 45
Practice: Childhood Memories
Practice: Meeting the Younger Self
Emotional Release on Physical Hurts.........................................................45
Resting Deeply............................................................................................................48
Practice: Deep Resting
Chapter 6. Nurturing and Healing With The Voice..............................51
Hypnotic Induction and Regression.................................................... 51
Practice: Record your own Guided Meditation
Positive Message Design ......................................................................... 53
Practice: Personal Message Design
Creative Vocal Stroking ........................................................................... 54
Practice: Vocal Stroking
Freeing The Voice: Baby Power............................................................ 55
Practice: Exploring Sounds
Practice: Exploring Baby Sounds
Using Sounds in Counseling Sessions ................................................. 56
Chapter 7. Nurturing Touch for Healing.................................................57
Closeness and Touching............................................................................... 57
Practice: Your Touching Experience
Sex and Closeness ......................................................................................59
Practice: Short Session on Touch
Practice: Aware Cuddling
Types and Effects of Touch .....................................................................60
Practice: Physical Touching Styles
Practice: Attitudes While Touching
Practice: Nurturing Touch
Getting Comfortable Cradling an Adult ..............................................61
Practice: Cradling a partner
Chapter 8. Getting Your Energy ClearPreparations
for the Therapist.............................................67
Matter and Energy .....................................................................................67
Grounding.....................................................................................................70
Grounding Visualization...................................................................................71
Practice: Grounding
Centering and Filling Visualization .............................................................71
Clearing and Purification ........................................................................73
Practice: Clearing
Practice: Aura Sweeps
The Torus Healing Meditation...............................................................75
Separating Your Energy From Others .................................................77
Visualization: Owning Your Body and Personal Space.......................77
Practice: Separating Your Energy
Handling Negative Energy................................................................................80
Practice: Staying Neutral
Opening to Channel Healing..........................................................................80
Practice: Opening The Hand Chakras
Practice: Energy Balls
Practice: Opening the Heart Channel
Channeling the DivineGetting out of the Way.

Visualization: Matching and Un‐matching Energy ...............................83
Chapter 9. Invoking the Divine...................................................................85
Tuning to the Divine Creator/Parent..................................................85
Practice: Discussion of Parents
Opening to the Mother....................................................................................... 86
Practice: Mothering History
Practice: Goddess Walk
Meditation‐ Meeting the Inner Mother Goddess............................ 87
Opening to The Father ............................................................................. 88
Practice: Fathering History
Practice: Walking the Father
Meditation‐ Meeting the Inner Divine Father.................................. 89
Elements of Ritual ..................................................................................... 90
Chapter 10. Reclaiming our Breasts.........................................................93
Emotions About Breasts.......................................................................... 93
Practice: Your Relationship with Breasts
Breasts as Sacred Objects ....................................................................... 94
Women: Nurture Our Breasts................................................................ 95
Practice: Self Breast Massage
Practice: Shared Breast Massage
Offering the Breast in Therapy ............................................................. 96
Chapter 11. Challenges in the Therapy Process................................... 99
Letting Yourself Be Little ........................................................................ 99
Letting Yourself Be Loved.....................................................................100
What If I Have No Partner?...................................................................100
Attachments, Rejection, Projection...................................................101
Transference and How to Avoid It .....................................................101
Integrity As A Therapist ........................................................................103
Your Sexual Feelings as a Therapist..................................................103
Chapter 12. Resources for Use in Sessions ..........................................107
Outline of a Full Sacred Nurturing Session:.....................................108
Heartbeat Nurturing Therapy- Initial Interview..........................110
Guided Deep Relaxation.........................................................................112
Guided Regression To The Inner Child .............................................114
Meeting the Mother Goddess................................................................115
Suckling Invitation ..................................................................................115
Meeting the Inner Divine Father ........................................................ 116
Coming Back Home ................................................................................. 117
Appendixes.....................................................................................................119
Appendix 1. Counseling Actual Children ............................................. 119
Appendix 2. Counseling on Food and Eating ...................................... 122
Appendix 3. Counseling on Closeness and Touch............................. 123
Appendix 4. Training for Priest/ess Therapists ............................... 124
About the Author..........................................................................................132
Recommended Reading & Bibliography...............................................134

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"Taking the Heartbeat Nurturing Therapy class was a profound experience in and of itself. It caused such a degree of de-armoring, of 'getting real,' that it took my whole life and forced the moment to its crisis, so to speak. It laid bare whatever was not working authentically and also what was authentically true about me and my life.

In less than 24 hrs my vision, being so cleared, produced the action steps that provide the context for my destiny, if you will. All the pieces fell into place perfectly and my understanding, too. It was so fast and amazing as to feel miraculous. I feel blessed by your presence and your class. "

India

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"Working with Amara was a immensely grounding and healing experince. At once I felt listened to in a deep witnessed kind of way and also encouraged to not get stuck in the stories I have about my self. She has the ability to create a safe space for great healing to move though while at the same time bringing divine blessings in. I would not hesitate to reccomend her work to anyone on a healing journey. "

Liam

Client